(Get over your bluest days! Read on!)
Well, these days I feel like a jinx. A lot of things are going on and I am so damn confused. To tell you the truth, I don't really know whether I am heartbroken, scared or just plain paranoid. All I know is that I am sad, and it's so difficult to admit. I know, for those people that have been around me for quite a while, that it's hard to believe because I always seem so crazy and happy, but hey, everyone is vulnerable. I may seem like I'm this super strong person but unfortunately, I found someone who made me extremely vulnerable.
Enough of my rubbish!
For those people who are feeling blue these days, whatever your reasons are, you should know that everyone deserves cheering up. Here are some things that I've already tried (and have worked.. so far):
1. Sing your heart out. Yes, this is an old trick but it really works for me. It's even okay to sing sad songs! Don't contain your emotions. Release them and you'll feel better. If your shy because you think you don't sing so well, then just don't sing too loud, or try humming. If you really can't sing, then just try playing an instrument. Music is a good emotional outlet. It will make you feel more relaxed.
2. Tears are healthy. Nothing's wrong with crying. In fact, it's really good for the body. It helps release tension. I know most people don't want to show their soft side. If you are one of those people, then watch a movie or an episode of a drama series. When someone asks you why you are crying, just say that it's a show that made you cry (I know it's bad to lie, but this is YOUR choice). If you suddenly reminisced in a place with no TV, then I also have some tips for you. If you are teary in a car, try to move your eyes near the air conditioner, it will dry your tears (tried and tested!). If you are just sitting close to someone, do a fake yawn and pretend to be sleepy (you know how some people get really teary when they yawn / feel sleepy). You could also just close your eyes for a few minutes, pretend that you are sleeping, "wake up" and wipe your eyes like you usually do when you wake up in the morning.
3. Keep a journal. Keep a blog or a diary (notebook type). Writing on it regularly will help you release your negative emotions. If you suddenly cry while writing, so be it, who cares? If you want to put a lock or make your journal private, it's your call. When I kept a diary before, I wrote my deepest feelings, and when I read it after some time, I felt really embarrassed, but I think that's normal.
4. Learn something new. Find something that you think is really interesting. For example, right now, I am attending Japanese classes. I enjoy learning languages so this is what's good for me. It all depends on your interests. You can learn how to bike, build a radio-controlled monster truck, do a handstand, and so on. This will help divert your attention.
5. Look good to feel good. Self-esteem is very important when you are in a fragile stage. Try to dress your best and go to a public place. Getting noticed and receiving compliments once in a while can help boost your self-esteem, but don't absorb it too much or you'll end up being egoistic or narcissistic. For the ladies, put on some make up. Glam yourself up, but don't put on too much because you might feel worse after receiving negative attention. For the gents, shave and try to look extremely clean. Put on some perfume and comb your hair well. You might even attract fan girls this way. Anyway, just try to look especially great. This way, even the people around you can help you by cheering you up through nice words and sweet glances.
If you are heartbroken, you might even consider trying to...
6. Keep a pet. Taking care of a pet can help you release the "love energy" that was refused by the one you like. This way, you will feel more appreciated (especially when your pet responds by cuddling, etc.). Make your pets feel loved, and you will be loved in return. Even if your pet is not the person whom you want to love you, it still loves you and tries to make you happy. AT LEAST IT TRIES TO RECIPROCATE. (okay, I sound terribly bitter but whatever)
These are some of the things that might help you overcome your loneliness. If you want to suggest, you can comment (if you're a VOX member) or email me at ai.ni.qiaokeli@gmail.com (if you are not). I can't guarantee that all of these work but these really worked for me. Everything depends on you now.
Good luck with everything!
You deserve the "cheering up"!
See ya~
爱你,宝贝
Missy ;)